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this is really selfish but
why can’t mental illness be like any other kind of sickness where you go to hospital and your loved ones come and give you flowers and tell you that they love you and hold your hand and make sure you get better
why doesn’t that happen instead of awkward silences and embarrassing tears and messy bedsheets and a bunch of other stuff no one actually talks about
w h y
I can’t find a single selfish thing in that.
quick reminder that you don’t have to be suicidal to be depressed.
you don’t have to experience frequent panic attacks to have an anxiety disorder.
you don’t have to have an intake of 300 calories to have an eating disorder.
you don’t have to repeat all your actions 10 times to have OCD.
you don’t have to be the poster child of a mental illness in order to be affected by one.
People need to remember this.
Social anxiety isn’t cool.
OCD isn’t cool.
Bipolar disorder isn’t cool.
Depression isn’t cool.
Cutting isn’t cool.
Phobias aren’t cool.
Trauma isn’t cool.
Sleep disorders aren’t cool.
Eating disorders aren’t cool.
They’re real things, they’re scary, and pretending you have them is just fucking obnoxious and an insult.
OH MY GOD THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS WRONG WITH THIS
That’s like saying its somebodies fault for sleeping.
I just. I can’t. Nope.
She doesn’t mean mental illness is a choice. Disorders and diseases, whether inherent or developed, are not a choices, but we all make the decision of whether or not to act on them, and that goes for eating disorders as much as it does schizophrenic compulsions to murder.
At some point, we have to stop blaming everyone else. We have to stop falling back on the excuse “because I’m sick” and take responsibility for our lives because we’re sick people - not incompetent children.
She’s not implying it’s easy, not implying it’s possible alone, but saying it is indeed a choice and there is hope.
Is it an obsession? Yes. Are there compulsions? Yes.
But, in the end, whose fingers are down my throat?
^ THIS THIS SO MUCH THANK YOU
1. Understand that anorexia/bulimia is not a diet problem. It is complicated and has to do with a persons feelings of powerlessness, fears of conflict and sense of self-worth.
2. Understand that no one is to blame for the problem. It is no one’s fault. Try to understand, however what dynamics may trigger and perpetuate the eating disorder.
3. Understand that she/he needs to eat three meals a day (or equivalent on her meal plan), but do not take responsibility for her/his eating. Do not hide food from her/him or push food on her/him.
4. Let her know that you are willing to provide support if she needs it.
5. If you have questions about the anorexia/bulimia ask her/him directly. She/he can determine what she/he is comfortable sharing.
6. Do not share your opinions or judgements on her/his size or weight, even “teasing”. Understand that part of the anorexia/bulimia is the distortion of her/his size, feeling “fat”, and strong fear of being fat. (Fat= Unacceptable)
7. Do not encourage any kind of nutritional plan, diet, ect.
8. Share freely and directly with her/him concerns or others feelings you have which regard her/him. Don’t “walk on eggshells”.
9. Understand that she/he is also working on identifying his/her feelings and needs and on communicating more directly. Conflicts in relationships do not mean “its all over”.
10. Understand that she/he is not “cured”. She/he will be struggling with the eating disorder for quite a while yet and needs continuing work on issues which cause and perpetuate it.
KIASER OWNS ALL RIGHTS TO THIS. I OWN NOTHING.
Recovery requires a consistent effort to change old thoughts into new. Many of you have told me that changing the way you think is actually much harder than changing the way you act. To stay in recovery, you need to do the right thing, even when you don’t feel like it. At times, your actions are keeping you in recovery, but the mental battle remains. The eating disorder thoughts feel strong and you may grow weary, wondering when the “ED thoughts” will go away.
Be assured that with time, the eating disorder thoughts do go away. As you continue to do the right thing and focus on recovery, the recovery thoughts begin to win the mental battle. However, you can help strengthen your recovery by actively working to change old thoughts into new thoughts. One way to do this is to use the skill of “Catch It, Challenge It, Change It.” You may have learned this skill while at Remuda, but here’s a quick review of how it works: First, catch the old thought when it creeps into your mind. Don’t allow yourself time to dwell on the old, unhealthy thought. Next, challenge the old thought by interrupting it or by behaving in a way that challenges it. Finally, change the thought by replacing it with a truthful statement or positive thought. You can also help yourself develop a new way of thinking by using positive thoughts when faced with a recovery challenge. Thoughts such as “I can stand this” or “I will get through this” can make a big difference when you are faced with a trigger.❞
sorry for colour but i think im somewhere between 2,3,4and5 idk which somedays its one others its another i feel